29 Sex Accessories To Elevate Your Partnered Play

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"I cannot say enough about these bed restraints. They are versatile, discreet, convenient, extremely durable, well-made, and a ton of fun."

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It's a ramp! It's an ottoman! It's improving your sex life! This convertible cushion is created with high-density foam for comfortable support and a moisture-resistant lining underneath the removable cover. Flip the furthest side of the ramp on top for a versatile block shape or use the classic ramp shape to help find the right positions for superior stimulation alone or with a partner.

Promising reviews: "The multiple positions and easy use enables easy changes in positioning enhancing our sex life. Used it nearly every night for two weeks and still found different ways to use it!" —Jerry in Vancouver

"Great addition to add some spice. Fabric is soft and soft stuff gets stuck to it easily. Thank goodness the cover comes off so you can wash it." —jen bardsley

Get it from Amazon $179.99 (available in espresso and aubergine).

Promising review: "My partner and I like this product, soft, stretchy, not too tight (have had discomfort from other brands being too tight). Would recommend, especially considering it has two bands to allow some fun options." —Bradley

Get it from Amazon for $17.59.

You can spend less time buckling and adjusting and more on pleasure with this rechargeable strap-on designed with 12 speeds and 8 vibrating patterns for endless thrills. Oh, did I mention it's waterproof?

Promising reviews: "I bought this when it was on sale, but I'd say it's definitely worth the full price. Since my partner and I are both Transgender men this toy helps us have fantastic penetrative sex that stimulates both people — without having to wear a harness. The bulb really hits the G spot while the ears stimulate the clitoris. I've used other strapless toys but they would often slide out which is a problem I rarely experience with this toy. Since it stays in, it really allows you to get lost in the moment until it almost feels like it's your own penis penetrating your partner. The product itself is smooth and high-quality. However, it is also quite firm and a bit too slim for my taste when I'm on the receiving end, but a bigger and heavier toy would likely not stay inside the wearer. It's easy to clean and the battery lasts for a long time. Overall, my favorite toy to use with a partner." —Bi.Guy

"Wow! Worth the money! 32, gay woman and tried with my partner today. As the receiver, holy god, I came so fast and hard, and multiple times. Whew! It vibrates very hard against the g-spot, and is a good length. For the wearer, the fact that it's adjustable is super helpful. We used it with a pair of strap-on briefs underwear, and it worked great. All the power to the women who can keep it in with their pelvic floor muscles. It came in a cute bag that you can actually run the charging cord into when you charge it. Easy to use, buttons are in a good spot and aren't easily pressed on accident. Anyway, buy this. Trust me." —Bri F.

Get it from Lovehoney for $99.99.

For packing, it's recommended to be worn with a strap-on / harness, so that it stays put. The stroker cavity stretches and works best for anatomies at least 0.5" in diameter because it will create suction, any smaller and the suction will not be activated.

Promising review: "My partner and I used the Jack yesterday. They are trans masculine and three years on testosterone. We used it in two different ways. The first way, I used a nice amount of lube, opened the stroker and suctioned it and stroked. It worked best with reinforcement by hand. Most FTM strokers we come across seem as if they are designed for trans masculine folks who are more developed growth wise physically. With that being said we improvised and the toy wound up giving amazing results for my partner. They give it a 9/10 and said that they are interested in seeing this develop in different shapes and sizes. I also suctioned it, applied pressure with fingers and performed oral sex. He said it was very pleasurable to be able to receive head and have the point of view visual that Jack creates. It helped with his dysphoria." —Summer

Get it from New York Toy Collective for $59 (available in four fleshtone hues).

New York Toy Collective is a Black- and queer-owned retailer that creates high-quality, gender-affirming intimacy toys and products, ranging from packers and binders to dildos and accessories.

Promising reviews: "This is a great little guy to have in your toy collection. Small and discreet, it’s perfect to bring on vacations or weekend getaways. FYI, there are no problems getting it through security at airports! It’s also fun to use solo or with a partner. The quality is exceptional; the feel of the material is smooth and silky, and is non-irritating to my sensitive skin. Highly recommend!" —SMB1992

"I was very impressed with the power and the quietness of this vibrator. I don’t have to worry about other people in the house hearing it, and worrying about that is a turn off. It is so simple to use and is great to use in partnered sex as well. It makes you come and come. It hides easily in your purse in a black storage bag which becomes almost invisible in the bottom of a purse. Save your money from buying expensive toys and buy this." —L. Green

Get it from Amazon for $9.99 (available in red and black).

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Promising reviews: "I think my husband enjoys it more than I do. I find myself trying to keep it in place and adjusting it, but it's still worth it. We just need to continue experimenting... ;)" —Diana W.

"I looked at this product for a long time, but was skeptical. I finally decided to buy it and I’m so glad I did! I love using this with my husband. It gets me there every time. I love the different speed settings. The only thing I wish is that it were remote controlled so it would be easier to change the speed. This also stays in place surprisingly well and feels very comfortable." —Halie T.

Get it from Dame for $140 (available in ice or papaya) or Amazon for $139.99+ (available in ice or fir).

So, you want to try out pegging, eh? Well this bundle has it all, and both the beginner's anal plug and dildo vibrator can be controlled with wireless remotes. You can choose one of several different dildo options; the various shapes and designs let you pick exactly what kind of pleasure you want to deliver to your partner.

Get it from B-Vibe for $179 (valued at $250; available in black and fuchsia with 4 different dildo options).

B-Vibe is a premium collection of tech-forward anal play products founded by certified sex educator Alicia Sinclair.

If you want to start out with something more beginner-friendly or check out more options, here's a list of the best strap-on harnesses and dildos.

You can control the vibrations of this waterproof wearable manually or from the convenient We-Connect app.

Promising review: "This thing is the bee's knees. It's strong, has 10 different levels of strength, multiple different vibe modes, just the right amount of weight and does the job, very well at that! It's great for solo and couples. It also comes with an app for long-distance fun with a partner! Be aware that you must plan to use it before any kind of stimulation because YOU WILL NOT GET IT ON! Other than that I couldn't be happier with this one!" —JacksonP

Get it from We-Vibe for $129.

Promising reviews: "Very bratty sub is unable to bite through this, but not for lack of trying. It looks adorable and your neighbors will thank you! Feels very high quality and is easy to clean. Does it really glow in the dark? I don't know — you shouldn't be playing in a dark with a partner that can neither verbalize nor signal their safe word!" —Amazon Customer

"I love this gag! It's not hard like other gags but still firm enough. I like that the silicone extends to the sides of the mouth/connect to the straps, as ones I've had prior have the straps continue through a slit in the ball and skin often gets pinched by those designs...This one, however is phenomenal! Super comfy, the straps are good, quality, leather and strong buckles. The only con I have when cleaning it is trying not to get the soft suede on the interior of the straps wet, as it starts to damage them if not dried quickly." —Keg

Get it from Amazon for $10.89+ (available in two sizes and three colors).

Supple, body-safe silicone offers a waterproof exterior and a flared base helps the plug stay put.

Promising reviews: "I absolutely love this product. The fact that you can use it over a wireless connection and video chat with your partner is a tremendous thrill when you cannot be together! It feels incredible and the charge lasts a long time. The only downside is that it sometimes loses connection if the phone controlling it is too far away or the signal cannot reach the device because the wearer is moving around. Despite that little drawback, it is stellar. If you are on the fence about purchasing this item because of the price, I will confirm that it is worth every dollar. And totally discreet in public as well. ;)" —Firefoxxx

"We have had a great time with this. I bought the largest and it took a bit to get used to it. We are a couple of states away from each other and he has had a great time setting me off while I’m at work or doing things around home. The vibration is very intense at the highest setting and at the lowest just keeps you on edge. Being made of the material that it is, you have to keep it clean and let it air out, so it doesn’t smell if you get any fecal matter on it. Definitely recommend!" —JayyDee

Get it from Amazon for $89+ (available in four sizes).

Promising reviews: "I absolutely cannot say enough great things about these straps. They are versatile, discreet, convenient, extremely durable, well-made, and a ton of fun. Highly recommended for anyone who loves to spice things up in the bedroom." —AB

"These are very good. Wasn't sure if the velcro would be strong enough, but it was! She loved them and I loved them. If you are looking for a great addition to fun in the bedroom I highly recommend getting these." —N. W.

Get it from Amazon for $51.95.

The ergonomic egg shape means this discreet vibe stays put, so you can wear it out and about (if that's your thing) and control the vibrations effortlessly from your phone. No one would suspect a thing and with a five-hour battery life...this toy can probably outlast you.

Promising reviews: "When I saw they had an updated version of it I had to try it and it is wonderful. I have not had any connection problems with it and love the new charging port. The Lovense 3 is a little more powerful than the 2 and I like that also. My partner and I love this new version. It is a wonderful toy for long distance play or in person. The app allows me to give him full control no matter where he is and we both enjoy that. I would highly recommend this for couples that can't always get together in person." —Kelli

"Lovesense has changed the game forever! While is has some things they can still improve on, I stand behind this product for self-play or foreplay with your significant other. The music feature was such a pleasant surprise. The vibrations ride the bass and it changes in intensity appropriately and on cue with your favorite song... your favorite song will be your favorite FAVORITE song on a whole other level....*pauses for deep reflective breath*. The ability to also customize vibrations to your liking is a big plus as is the ability to still 'engage' with your partner so long as they have cell service. My second favorite feature? I don’t need freaking batteries. A win all in itself." —T. Antoinette

Get it from Amazon for $129.

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Promising reviews: "Boyfriend says it’s incredible. A little weird to use at first. Extremely slippery and will slingshot off. Lol however, it’s so soft you won’t break anything if it does get away from you." —K Graham

"Awesome couples' toy! Spice it up and take sexy time by your own hands! 😉 My husband was super surprised and turned on from me taking it upon myself to please him with this neat little toy. Clear, super soft, and gives you ability to still do your thing with it being open ended (tube basically) there are ridges and groves on the inside to give a more realistic feeling." —Kristina

Get it from Amazon for $9.63.

Promising review: "My fiancé is a trans woman, and I am a cis woman. This was delightful for both of us to enjoy. Good shape on both ends, great selection of vibrations." —Staci

"Have had this product for a few about three months. I am a lesbian and use it with my partner. Here are some comments: The material is super soft and comfortable. We both enjoy it. You might not even need lube. The shape is the most ergonomic I have ever tried. Much nicer than realistic dildos, which can hurt sometimes. The longer part reaches on various areas inside you, it's interesting. The vibration is very well distributed along the toy. The bump close to the middle of the longer side reaches the clitoris on the one using the short side, which is a nice extra. It has several vibration modes, so you will find one you like. Overall a good toy for lesbians who like penetration and both can enjoy it. Even the softer vibration mode is a little too strong for me, so it's best for people who like a little rougher and stronger vibration." —jess

Get it from Amazon $38.99+ (available in red and purple).

Promising reviews: "It’s been great for my transmasculine nonbinary partner and me trying to switch things up in the bedroom. I use it with a strap-on." —Tina

"A must have for lesbians :). Thanks." —Megan

Get it from Wet for Her for $76.45 (originally $89.95).

This creamy lube is created with palm butter, grape-seed oil, and vitamin E for a moisturizing and velvety feel wherever it's applied.

Promising review: "There are no words for how good this lube is. It is amazing for long sessions, it feels incredible, it's .... I damn near got misty that someone, somewhere, had the exact same need as I did, and then invented something that solved that need. Serious, historic tip of the cap. To potential purchasers thinking they will get a sample size to start — fuck that. You have found the product you are looking for." —Rick Willet

"Great to use as a moisturizer and even better as lube! I've purchased this several times over the last couple of years and my partners love it as much as I do!" —Joseph Gurk

Get it from The Butters Hygienics Co. for $3+ (in various sizes).

The Butters Hygienics Co. is a Black- and Queer-owned business based in Michigan that creates products using simple ingredients and hand-crafted in the owner's kitchen. In true millennial fashion, they want you to be able to afford quality body products that do what the bottles say they do.

The board has convenient D-ring attachments, so you can use your favorite or preferred restraints, which are not included.

Promising reviews: "This thing is awesome. Solid construction, plenty of attachment points. Nobody is escaping from this." —Zapp Brannigan

Get it from Amazon for $179.27+ (available in 42.5" and 65" L).

This bondage set boasts various items made of leather and nylon, including one pair of handcuffs, one pair of ankle cuffs, one pair of nipple clamps, a whip, a rope, a ball gag, a feather tickler, a collar, a hogtie, a blindfold and a paddle.

Promising review: "I was surprised how many pieces came with this set. The fur lining makes the cuffs and collars very comfortable, and uses buckles rather than velcro. The set is shown on women but I used it on a man. Some of the chain link could probably be broken through, if they wanted to. Impact play items work well, and the variety of items give this set a lot of options. I used the cuffs with a bed strap system I already had." —Anonymous

Get it from Amazon for $32.99.

This toy is made of supple silicone and stretches to fit a variety of dildo bases up to 3.25" W.

Promising review: "I will never not use this thing. It is soooo soft. feels so nice AND hits that sweet spot every single time. My girl and I love it. 🥇🥇🥇" —Brie Sews

Get it from Amazon for $36 (available in three colors).

The lightweight harness boasts adjustable straps and an O-ring compatible with dildos up to 2.25 inches wide. It is also machine washable, and once you've found your perfect fit, you can simply slip it on and off like a pair of underwear. Meanwhile, the included dildo boasts a gentle curve and is compatible with water-based and hybrid lubricants for a feel-good time.

Promising reviews: "This was my first strap-on purchase and I am impressed by the quality and value of this product! You have made two lesbians very happy." —Anonymous

"Thank you for making a toy for lesbians. You know, women who love women, not realistic veiny penis lookalikes. This little gem is firm but soft enough to give in the right spots. I cannot say enough about the thoughtful design. You have to hold it to understand fully. We will be buying another in a different size to change things up. I prefer smaller, my wife likes larger, and WFH has us covered!" —Meredith

Get it from Wet for Her for $157.99 (originally $184.90; harness available in three colors and sizes XS-5X and dildo available in two sizes).

Unlike most panty vibrators, this one is strictly external and has a magnetic cap to help it stay put as you walk, sit, lounge or whatever else you plan on doing.

Promising review: "This product is amazinggggg for long-distance relationships and even solo play. All different kinds of patterns, or you can make your own. Battery life lasts pretty well and it’s pretty discreet and stays in place well. I’d say that it is just a tad louder than what I expected, but I think that setting can be adjusted in the app. I’d definitely 100% recommend this — especially to long-distance couples." —Leah J.

"I'm not sure how people say this doesn’t work from afar, because this works. My partner and I live a thousand miles away and we got this and he controls it from a thousand miles apart. You have to learn how to actually use the app. I 10/10 recommend this." —maricelis torres

Get it from Amazon for $119.

The wearable bulb and shaft each have nine vibration modes independent of each other that can be controlled by the wireless remote. Not to mention, this toy is waterproof for extra wet play and designed with a textured clitoral base and realistic shaft to deliver targeted sensations.

Promising review: "Me and my partner were very pleased (me especially) with this product! I was skeptical about it being strapless and staying in but boy oh boy does it work. If you are in a lesbian relationship like me, this product will definitely spice up your bedroom. Love this product!!" —Becs

Get it from Amazon for $35.99 (available in pink and purple).

The silicone ring stretches to fit a variety of penises (or dildos), and the vibrator has 5 speeds and patterns for up to 25 varying intensities.

Promising reviews: "This is a great addition to solo or couple's play. The ring is super stretchy and can fit around any of our toys. Loved when she was on top. She was able to grind on it without having to hold a heavy vibrator. Super quick and easy to clean and charges quickly! It's pretty quiet considering how intense the vibration can be." —Howard Martin

"This is the first cock ring I've tried aside from those single-use gummies once or twice. The silicone ring is very soft and has a good amount of stretch. I didn't find it uncomfortable though I definitely recommend using lube to get it into place. You can wear it outwardly to stimulate your partner or reverse it to stimulate your own testicles. I was impressed with the amount of punch they packed into such a small vibrator, though the ring itself doesn't conduct enough vibration for solo play it does pair well with other toys in your kit. It's waterproof, easy to clean, and charges quickly from a standard USB port. It even comes with a tiny travel pouch for your pocket, if you really wanted to keep it on hand. All in all, for the price this is a great addition to your toy box." —Anonymous

Get it from Amazon for $39.66.

This harness also has internal pockets in case you want to place a bullet vibrator for added pleasure.

Promising reviews: "This is my favorite harness! I have had two myself and bought a couple for partners over the years. This is my go to and the only harness I ever recommend." —wordsspitout

"I was so exhausted one night after my partner and I had some fun, that I fell asleep with it on and forgot it was still there. It’s extremely comfortable but super sturdy. Also, very easy to throw it in the mesh bag it comes in and toss it in the laundry. I let it air dry though. Great product!" —divertida9

Get it from Amazon for $134.95+ (available in two sizes and three colors).

The pictured dildos and plugs are all part of Blush's Avant collection, with several representing the colors of a specific Pride flag for their über-popular Pride collection. Each dildo is a different length and girth, so you literally can't go wrong. For info on why these dildos are great, check out my Blush Avant Purple Rain dildo review.

Promising review: "First, this thing is HUGE, especially for a novice to certain play. My husband wanted to try it, with that kind of half afraid and half excited. We had tried smaller toys but they are often rather firm and frequently somewhat uncomfortable. Not only is this one pretty colors it is soft and flexible but with a firm enough core to use (big pink marshmallow is how my hubby describes this one). The head is very large and be warned that you need to prep the recipient a bit and take your time. The ridges can make vigorous play uncomfortable after a little while and this is a bit longer than the standard sizes. It has ended up being hubby's favorite, though. We would certainly purchase again and are even looking at others in this collection to change things up." —J. Heath (on D3 Summer Fling Avant dildo)

Get them from Amazon for $55.99+ (available in six colors and sizes).

Promising reviews: "This toy is worth every penny and maybe double that. I have a ton of toys (I like trying new things) but this one is the one I always go back to. I like using it both dry and with lube as they are totally different experiences with this thing. Saw a review and was intrigued, but was a little hesitant given the price. I shouldn’t have worried." —Anonymous

"I got this toy for my partner for his birthday. He's bought me lots of toys over the years and I wanted to gift him his own toy that we can also use together. He enjoys the pleasure it brings, in the bed or in the shower. It's pretty powerful, has lots of options and settings, and feels good on my clit too (though a bit too strong of vibrations for me). We've only used it once together so we still need to experiment a bit more with positions for it to bring us both to climax but this is a really awesome, high quality toy so I am hopeful!" —Lilliana

Get it from Fun Factory or Amazon for $139.99 (available in three colors).

I'm a bigger gal and this dildo brings me so much joy. Just, yes. Anyways, this dildo is made with body-safe and hypoallergenic silicone, harness-compatible, boilable for cleaning and sterilization and has a girth of 1.5 inches.

Promising reviews: "My partner absolutely loves it! The big head hits all his 'right spots.' The length lets us naturally do all kinds of positions. For me, it is truly my cock. It matches my skin almost perfectly, too. A great cock by NYTC!" —Zach

"My wife and I enjoy pegging but we have always had trouble because I am very muscular so my thighs are large and, well, my butt is tight. We had tremendous trouble finding a toy that she could comfortably penetrate and pump me with that was not painfully large for my little hole. We like this toy because it has a generous base that is held rock solid by her Joque harness. No popping out, no matter how vigorous the play. The diameter is narrow and the head is soft. With a little finger play and slippery stuff lube, the head painlessly pops in. The flexibility of the toy is very forgiving for a novice. We can successfully try new positions with ease. The softness of the toy comfortably fills me up and feels great. The combined flexibility and softness is excellent for deep throating. It will bend right down your throat. The length is excellent, I can lay on my back and my wife can do deep penetrating thrusts without the toy coming out of me. We can change positions without removing the toy too. This is our favorite strap-on dildo." —James

Get it from New York Toy Collective for $169 (available in four flesh tones and four whimsical hues).

This unique wearable is designed to help people manage pain and customize penetration depth (depending on the number of rings worn) without sacrificing sensation.

Promising review: "I bought these because my wife looked into them and thought they'd be a good idea to make sex a little bit better for her and hopefully still as good for me. Thankfully after purchasing and trying them out, I can say they are worth every penny! My wife is more satisfied and happier to have sex, and I still feel amazing as well. The Ohnuts don't take any longer to put on than a condom if you stack them prior (stack them prior...it's awkward stacking while they're on), and they give you the feeling of deeply penetrating without hurting your spouse, who can now focus on enjoying sex instead of embracing pain. They are also really easy to clean and come with a small cloth bag to place them in if you don't want to have side conversations about Ohnuts, which is entirely up to you. Overall, I 100% would recommend." —Q.D.

Get it from Ohnut for $75.

Ohnut Co. is a women-founded wellness company that believes in ending the cycle of silence and discomfort, so people can rediscover the joy of connection.

This wedge-shaped pillow is designed with a machine-washable cotton cover and water-resistant lining in case things get a little messy. A handle on each side offers support no matter your favorite position.

Promising reviews: "Love it! 'The usual' positions feel so different and new with the Pillo and it's helping me and my partner explore positions one of us usually doesn't enjoy. I was surprised by the price of sex pillows when I first started researching but the quality is so good I understand now." —Jae

"You might be thinking 'I don’t need a pillow specifically made for sex — I use my own pillows and those work just fine.' NO. The shape and firmness of Pillo are unmatched. You can use it for SO many different positions and it is discreet looking enough that you can throw it on the couch or bed with your other pillows. My partner and I do not have sex without this pillow anymore. Highly recommend!" —Gavin H.

Get it from Dame for $95 (available in navy and oat).

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